Nonversations

Pixie Hollow can be where you  go to get your pixie dust. Where are you going? Photo by Alesia

Pixie Hollow can be where you go to get your pixie dust. Where are you going?

Have you ever been the victim of a nonversation? I have been. Nonversation is defined by the urban dictionary as one person talking and the other person NOT LISTENING. We generation baby boomers are 76 million strong and may be the last group to have known a world without the use of texting, computerizing, and chatting. I am reminded of the comedian Joan Rivers who guest hosted Johnny Carson a number of times in the 1970’s and 80’s who was known for her, “Can we talk?” question usually after she said a risqué joke on his show. Truly can we talk? Why are we not talking? What is happening?
Nonversations are a hindrance as far as I am concerned to genuine communication. Do not get this confused with nonverbal communication. WE all do that when we smile at someone or offer eye contact as a gesture of responsiveness to someone. Nonverbal communication can be destructive also if you roll your eyes at your spouse or a very good friend. These all lend themselves to perceptions. WE all perceive things different especially men versus women.
Today I want to start a series on capturing this very moment and learning about how to deal with being a better communicator. First I want you to know I have been captured by many of you writers/bloggers out there that have touched me in your own way of creating. I see some who use cartoons to make me laugh, others that share breathtaking photography, and of course those as myself trying to make sense of this world around us through writing. I love it all. I am just that kind of person. I want to hear and listen to each person’s viewpoint also.
One of my favorite things I have in my life is a Bible Study I facilitate twice a month. We usually take long breaks between the Christmas holidays and summer time. In ten days we will be back at it with some new materials I have picked up. We will actually be sharing on how to connect better with nature, friendships, resting, forgiveness, and God. I am looking forward to it. I want to have a conversation about all these issues. I have high expectations for myself to learn more. You see I have bought myself some wings and pixie dust a long time ago, but I think I need some new pixie dust. My wings have not flown for some time. Maybe you bloggers have been my pixie dust. I hope in some way my OWN trail of sparkly pixie dust will rub off on you and my “conversation” will enlighten you with breathtaking clarity. Until next time…..to be continued. Photos courtesy of Alesia unless otherwise noted.

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21 thoughts on “Nonversations

  1. pinklightsabre

    Nice…thanks for opening up and sharing, Alesia. Bible Study will be good – and this is an interesting topic to explore (the nonversation). We connect differently now. But still, it’s good to connect. Enjoy your weekend! – Bill

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    1. alesiablogs Post author

      I just heard it recently and it was stuck in my head for some reason that I thought–hum–I need to talk about this. Thus, a blog post was born! Thank you for reading Sheryl!

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  2. Lisa Lassiter

    Nonversations take place frequently in my home, so I eagerly await your future writings. How I miss the days of childhood when a good conversation was just a bicycle ride away or in your case, Alesia a short ride across the Atlanta Highway once we had a drivers license. Long nights of talking and saying everything or saying nothing. It was the CONversation that we need.

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    1. alesiablogs Post author

      Lisa, I do hope to open up some avenues of dialogue. Honestly, I am writing about this because it is a real problem. I have a feeling the course I will be facilitating will be asking me to make some very hard choices how I spend my time. I am ready for the challenge though. I will definitely share more so stay tuned. If you have not put in your email to follow- I would be honored for you to do that.

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  3. pishnguyen

    I hope you have many CONversations in the days to come! I hate the whole nonversation thing, and one of the things I love about your blog is that, each time I come here to read, I feel as if I’m talking to a friend. I think you’re already starting conversations out here on the interwebs, even if they are the written kind.

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    1. alesiablogs Post author

      Wow. Thank you for that comment. It is so meaningful to me that someone can see past the computer screen into the very heart of a person. When you risk going “raw” as I like to say of some of my posts, I feel like I am opening myself up to folks misconstruing my life. On the contrary this life is a true experience for me and includes many unpolished ideals at times. Thanks for going on this ride with me.

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  4. travelgardeneat

    With today’s younger generations, but as technology/texting/smartphones has pervaded even us middle-aged folks ours as well, the nonversation so often consists of someone half-listening while perusing their handheld device. You see it everywhere — restaurants where people used to talk over dinner they now mutually explore their phones! But, technology is a gift of communication, as well, as you have pointed out with the communication we enjoy through blogging! ~ Kat

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    1. alesiablogs Post author

      Yes. Absolutely I agree 100% with you! I can not wait to dig into that study and see what comes out of it. It mentioned making sacrifices in regards to computer usage so I look forward to the ideas presented to me and how I can be a better steward of my time.

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  5. Linda

    Not just nonversations, but people now totally tune out the world around them. If you’d like to see that in action, try accessing a shelf at a grocery store blocked by someone texting or chatting on a cell phone. They are totally oblivious to anything else.

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    1. alesiablogs Post author

      If you go into my blog that you had to get into to look at this page , look to the right and you will see a place where you can add your email and that way you will get the blog posts. If you are interested in sitting in on the actual study itself with my girls-we can skype you in! I am getting tech savvy these days! Thank you for reading and being so interested. You made my day.

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