Lead By Example

My youngest son showing off his most angry face! Anger comes in many forms.

My youngest son showing off his most angry face! Anger comes in many forms.

The title of this post says it all. This past year, I have been very angry. Sharing about my hurts, losses, and disappointments, I noticed something very interesting was happening. The more angry I got, the less others could help me see past the anger. My friends got angry too!
The pattern was simply that friends/family wanted to help, but they too were taken in with the conflicts. Family and friends had interesting ways of showing me how to handle my battle. They even offered to do the fighting for me although unorthodox (it could be a post all in its own)….BUT… I began to realize the anger was getting me no where.
So I began changing course and followed great advice from my aunt that offered it to me about a month ago. It was to let it all go. That’s right– Let all the anger GO!! Simple, isn’t it? I guess I finally was at that point too when she and I spoke. Your state of mind is powerful.
As I do this, I know my lead will bring peace and love and it will show an example worth following.
As some of you start the new year–may your heart and mind be in a good place. I feel better all ready! Lead by example. You never know who is watching.

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22 thoughts on “Lead By Example

    1. alesiablogs Post author

      This is good. I used that very example as my motto when I practiced nursing. I was on a code team and I lived through those important matters with folks who lost their loved ones. I know that hurt.

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  1. Angelia Sims

    I have a hard time letting anger go, but I also tend to shut down all emotions. I’ve given myself permission to cry, be angry, and be as joyous as possible. These new feelings unleashed are pretty cool. More often than not, anger doesn’t even come around. šŸ™‚ Wishing you a blessed and happy year!!

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    1. alesiablogs Post author

      Angela,
      Giving yourself permission is a good way to let go the old ways one has been taught when it comes to how to deal with truly sad and heartbreaking circumstances. Thx for sharing.

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  2. Carl D'Agostino

    Letting go-I is not easy. Its proponents act as though there is an emotional switch one can merely flip to off. Failing memory that comes with age is helpful. Now I am angry because often I can no longer remember what I am supposed to be mad about. I have worked at anger management. Now the only time I get angry is when someone pisses me off. Regards for New Year. It’s 3:17 PM in Miami, Florida.

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  3. Garden Walk Garden Talk

    It is funny because anger stifles and stops people from living, but I don’t see that ever happening with you. Maybe your anger motivated you in a more productive way. But seeing the post above, being a couch potato… šŸ˜€

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    1. alesiablogs Post author

      I have to tell you the truth. I am walking around the house the whole time doing things while I watch football! I don’t know how to stay still really. In regards to anger, I am better, but believe me I have been pretty mad dealing with my marriage issues.
      I do not want anger to take over my very being so it is like exercise–a game of will power- that must be tamed with each breath I take. I am glad for your comment though.

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