Have you ever been the victim of a nonversation? I have been. Nonversation is defined by the urban dictionary as one person talking and the other person NOT LISTENING. We generation baby boomers are 76 million strong and may be the last group to have known a world without the use of texting, computerizing, and chatting. I am reminded of the comedian Joan Rivers who guest hosted Johnny Carson a number of times in the 1970’s and 80’s who was known for her, “Can we talk?” question usually after she said a risqué joke on his show. Truly can we talk? Why are we not talking? What is happening?
Nonversations are a hindrance as far as I am concerned to genuine communication. Do not get this confused with nonverbal communication. WE all do that when we smile at someone or offer eye contact as a gesture of responsiveness to someone. Nonverbal communication can be destructive also if you roll your eyes at your spouse or a very good friend. These all lend themselves to perceptions. WE all perceive things different especially men versus women.
Today I want to start a series on capturing this very moment and learning about how to deal with being a better communicator. First I want you to know I have been captured by many of you writers/bloggers out there that have touched me in your own way of creating. I see some who use cartoons to make me laugh, others that share breathtaking photography, and of course those as myself trying to make sense of this world around us through writing. I love it all. I am just that kind of person. I want to hear and listen to each person’s viewpoint also.
One of my favorite things I have in my life is a Bible Study I facilitate twice a month. We usually take long breaks between the Christmas holidays and summer time. In ten days we will be back at it with some new materials I have picked up. We will actually be sharing on how to connect better with nature, friendships, resting, forgiveness, and God. I am looking forward to it. I want to have a conversation about all these issues. I have high expectations for myself to learn more. You see I have bought myself some wings and pixie dust a long time ago, but I think I need some new pixie dust. My wings have not flown for some time. Maybe you bloggers have been my pixie dust. I hope in some way my OWN trail of sparkly pixie dust will rub off on you and my “conversation” will enlighten you with breathtaking clarity. Until next time…..to be continued. Photos courtesy of Alesia unless otherwise noted.
Nonversations
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